Birthmother Rights & Adoption Laws
If you’re a birthmother thinking about giving up a child for adoption, there are many things to consider and questions about adoption you may have. The decisions you make during this time will have a lasting impact on both your life and the life of your child. It’s best to mull these decisions over at length because you will want to feel comfortable with the outcome.
You may have many questions about adoption birthmother rights. You many wonder how long the process takes and if you will have the ability to see your child again. Laws regarding adoption vary by state and talking with a knowledgeable adoption counselor may help you sort through your thoughts and find answers to your questions regarding giving up a child for adoption.
Adoption birth mother rights, such as the length of time you have to change your mind after signing consent forms, vary by state. Some states don’t allow any time to revoke your consent for adoption, while others allow 30 to 45 days. An adoption counselor can help you sort through your state’s particular rights and requirements.
Many birthmothers might think that once they put baby up for adoption, they never see the child again. However, several types of adoption exist. Open adoptions allow you to see your child several times each year, and semi-open adoptions involve the exchange of pictures and letters from your child to you several times each year, usually on major holidays. Some birthmothers want to avoid contact with their child. If so, closed adoptions ensure that contact between you and your child ends once the adoption is official.
As you move through the adoption process, you have the ability to make many decisions regarding your child’s future. Beyond the type of adoption you would like to pursue, think about the qualities you would like your child’s adoptive family to exhibit. For example, you may select the religion practiced by the adoptive family, the adoptive parents’ ages and even their occupations.
A long-term choice that dovetails with the type of adoption you select is the adoptive family’s location. If you wish to ensure no future contact after putting a baby up for adoption, you might select a family that lives in another state. Conversely, if you opt for an open adoption, you would want to select a family that lives in your town, or nearby.
Other long-term considerations include how you choose to broach that you put baby up for adoption with future romantic partners or subsequent children that you keep. The topic may be sensitive, and it’s difficult to predict reactions of your future loved ones. The child’s adoptive parents, who will have legal authority over the child, may want to be involved in discussions related to whom the child meets and with whom he develops relationships.
The situation can grow quite complex, especially in the case of open adoptions. Thinking about these issues up front, and deciding how to approach them, can help birthmothers make good decisions from the get-go.